I have a special reverence for those occasions when I meet a person and step into his or her life for the very first time. You never know what surprises await. The person you’re about to meet may have won a Pulitzer Prize, climbed
Whenever you first meet someone, you take a risk — but that’s how all good relationships start. They start with an element of chance, the chance that the other person might become a good friend or perhaps a trusted business associate based on common interests, shared experiences, and perhaps some good old-fashioned intuition.
But if you’re not willing to risk a first encounter, there’s little hope of developing any relationships. Call me foolish, but I relish these opportunities because, even when the worst-case scenario does occur, I still end up learning a great deal about human nature. There is never any real failure in the connection laboratory, just occasional setbacks.
In reality, first-time connections are golden opportunities for future relationships and in the business world, connections and relationships are everything. Just try conducting business without them! You won't get very far — and that will be especially true in the 21st century jobscape where the opportunities for business growth will be heavily dependent on the strength and abundance of personal relationships.
Determine Someone’s Wants / Needs / Desires (W/N/D)
Let me share a special technique that creates an immediate bond with another person. The technique is to get people talking about their W/N/D (wants/needs/desires). It's an incredible weapon in your networking arsenal.
This is how it plays out in conversation: You pick up a casual remark about selling Girl Scout cookies or coaching the swim team, for example. That then gives you a hook on which to hang questions, express interest, and fuel a conversation. The best part is that your desire to learn about someone else frequently triggers reciprocal inquiries because people are naturally curious. Presto! You’ve just established a connection. Whether it deepens or dissolves from this point on is totally up to the two of you.
Uncover a Person’s Passion and Build an Instantaneous Bond
Keith Ferrazzi, author of Never Eat Alone, believes that if you uncover a person’s true passion, you have a golden opportunity to bond with that individual since you’ll be connecting on a powerful, emotional level. Indeed, most people will freely share information about their passions and interests.
FORM = Family / Occupation / Recreation / Money (FORM = GOALS)
Another useful formula for making connections is the FORM Equation. Get someone talking about any of the four topics above and you’ll be connecting in record time. Why? People love to talk about the powerful motivations that propel them toward their life goals.
Nurture the Budding Relationship
Once you establish an interesting connection with someone, nurture it with periodic follow-up. Connections can be solid but fleeting; if you sense there is substance to a new connection, don’t miss the chance to reinforce it by making a phone call or two. Nurturing a good connection is the best way to solidify it into a trusted, long-term relationship.
Follow up
Don’t allow yourself to forget this critical step. In my view, the failure to follow up with newly made acquaintances – and even people with whom you already share a trusted relationship – accounts for almost half of all relationship failures.
Play It Low-Key With Bad Connections
Many of us carry a certain amount of negative baggage. But if it consistently oozes into the conversation with someone you’ve just met, consider an early exit. People who radiate negativity drag everyone else down with them. Who needs that when you’re already hip-deep in a job search?
The bottom line is this: If you decide that a new connection isn't going to work, politely head for the door. Confrontations rarely produce positive results.
Best wishes and own your career,
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